All pets are therapy animals to some extent. They provide companionship, reduce loneliness and depression, and can ease anxiety.
When we lose them, we lose a source of support and comfort. In our current society, we often hear comments like “It’s just an animal” or “You can just get another one”.
But we are their parents. Losing a beloved cat, dog, horse or other family pet is often as devastating as when a relative or friend dies. The steps we need to take in order to grieve and recover should be the same.
- When possible, consider the options available to you well in advance
- Involve the family in deciding on the best resting place for your pet
- Continue to care for your other pets: they are experiencing the loss, too
- Seek social support from people you know will understand and sympathize
- Remember your life together and share memories with friends and family
- Pay tribute to your loved one
Saying Goodbye
A memorial to your beloved pet can be a good way to pay tribute and reach closure.
It may take many forms: a letter, remembrance jewellery, a special urn, boxes for items such as collars, a funeral service, or marking a special resting place.
Only you and yours can choose how to best honour your beloved pet. Please, keep them in your heart and don’t grieve alone. Start the conversation.
We understand the many difficulties you will face. There are many articles, books and programs that offer support and counseling.
References:
Adam Clark, LCSW, AASW, “7 Self-care Essentials While Grieving the Death of a Pet”, Guy Winch, Ph.D., psychologist, author, and keynote speaker, “5 Reasons We Should Take Pet Loss Seriously” and Robin Jean Brown, “How to R.O.A.R.